Oh the PRESSURE!!

  OK, time to be honest! Weddings haven't happened much in my family. They kind of go in spurts. The last "real" wedding was 10 years ago and it was my Cousins. On my Fathers side, the last wedding was my first one and that was over 12 years ago!
The wedding industry has changed drastically in the last few years. Brides are not the same.
Out is taking pictures in front of a back drop. In are candid/photo journalistic shots. Brides are rocking colors, having  candy bars and using up lights Cakes are now more over the top! Gone are the days of the "normal" cake. We have monograms filled with rhinestones, cakes covered with fondant rich in patterns, ribbons and even brooches as accents. Card box?What is that? Brides use birdcages or like myself..a big vase! If they are using a card box it is 6 layers covered in fabric and decorated with amazing embellishments! We are bringing props, making vintage photo walls or even using photo booths!


Lets face it, in my family...my wedding will shock and take the breath away of almost all my guests. Not because we are spending tons of money. Because it is different than what they are accustom to seeing.
  In my planning I have gotten a lot of resistance to this change..meaning some look at me wondering WHAT THE HELL  I am thinking. A photo booth? Checkered dance floor? What do you mean your changing gowns? Whats a reception dress? WHAT ARE THESE MUSTACHES ON A STICK FOR? Whats wrong with the bud vase and centerpiece the reception hall provided?" WHAT are chair covers? Their HOW MUCH? Why do you need a sash tied around a chair? You're MAKING the invitations? WHY?? What is a photo share card and why do you need it? What do you mean there will be no favors? Theme? Whats a THEME? You need a theme? Your shoes are BLACK!!!??? (That caused a million gasps by the way!) This list can go on forever...
  I wonder if people looked at wedding gowns in the 80s and early 90s wondering what the  bride was thinking with poof sleeves that reached heaven (along with her hair) and the god awful iridescent green bridesmaid dresses covered in bows.. Probably not. So why now? Why are my decisions being looked upon as I am weird? I guess even though the Brides gown was 8 feet wide in poof..she still wore white shoes and didn't change her dress.
Change. It happens folks..even in the wedding industry. I wonder why people (family & friends mainly) look at brides NOW like they are crazy?
Regardless, all of this is causing pressure on me. In my family the next wedding may not happen again for another 10 years.
I can only imagine the awe in my guests faces when they see what I created in my little head. I KNOW it will be nothing they have EVER seen before. That's pressure!!
Exhale Shayne. Exhale!

Has anyone else received not so great reviews when they talk about their wedding "ideas"? Do you think your guests will be stunned (in a good way) when they see what you have created because they have not been to a wedding in 10+ years?